My comments are in black and the quotes are in blue.
Response to the video above:
In the beginnings it says:
When two people fall in love, they can get married, right? So why can't two men or two women who love each other, marry? Isn't it discrimination? YES GODDAMN IT, IT IS.
It's not discrimination to treat different situations in different ways.On some level I agree but mostly disagree about this particular situation. With that opinion, you're actually encouraging double standards in society among people. And using a silly excuse while doing that too!
It's like saying: Hey, it's not bullying if he's not gay, black or religious. He's normal so it's fine.
Double standards are a serious problem in today's society. Women and men get treated differently. Atheists and Christians get treated differently. Homosexuals and heterosexuals get treated differently. The list goes on and on.
Example #1
Being a female bisexual/lesbian is considered popular, hot and trendy.
Being a male bisexual/homosexual is considered shameful, immoral and definitely NOT popular.
Example #2
A male car mechanic is a typical, 'normal' thing that people are used to. Guys have no problem trusting a male car mechanic to fix their vehicle.
A female car mechanic though, is considered unskilled and untrustworthy. Guys have trouble trusting female car mechanics to fix their car because they believe that they are less skilled than other men and don't have the capacity or ability to do the work. The work built for men.
The same applies to male nurses, etc etc etc.
The level I agree with is basically the fact that the world isn't black and white. There are so many shades of gray and nothing can be JUST evil and wrong or perfect and right.
The relationship between a man and a woman is unique, only a man and a woman can make new life, only a man and a woman can give a child a mum and a dad.
The relationship between a man and a woman is unique? Huh? I disagree. Why? Here's why.
My parents divorced when I was 5 years old and my mum got a boyfriend after a while, and my dad got a girlfriend. They stayed good friends (which is usually rare but I'm thankful for it) and honestly, I have to say I couldn't have had a happier childhood. I basically had two mums and two dads. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I don't think it would be better if my parents stayed together and fought all the time..
I think every family is unique regardless of the number of the members in that family, their sex, sexual orientation, race, religion and other. I consider my family consisting of my two mums, two dads and a step brother, a real family.
Why would it matter to have a mum and a dad anyway? Is that the point? Balance while growing up?
Having a dad to teach you some 'manly' stuff and a mum to teach you 'feminine' stuff? Because, if you have only one parent you turn out to be unbalanced and either too-feminine or too-masculine? Is that how homosexuals are created? Of course not! You are born like that but that's another topic.
Anyway, I'm quite a butch and masculine female. Did I become like this because I spent more time with my dad? Of course not. That is ridiculous. I became like this because I preferred jeans over skirts, blue over pink, sports over make-up. It's what interested me more. It's my personality. It's who I am.
No two men or two women can ever do this. So it makes sense to treat something unique in a unique way. That's not discrimination.
Ever hear of in vitro fertilisation Using a sperm donor? Adoption? The options aren't limitless but there are plenty of them. Right, so a man and a woman who have a baby are unique. How about a man and a woman who can't have a baby because some health issues? Should they not be allowed to marry because they can't create a new life?
Marriage is a private promise between two people but it has a big public purpose as well. That purpose is unique and important to give children the love a mum and dad can give to their family.
If marriage is a private promise between to people that love each other, why can't those two people be of the same sex? A big public purpose? I don't understand that. You've just said that a marriage a private promise to respect one another, love one another and so on.. but what kind of a public purpose does it serve? As something kids would look up to, perhaps. They would learn right and wrong from that. They would learn to be respectful, don't lie and cheat and so. It's not unique, for god's sake! What about a grandmother raising her grandson? An aunt raising her nephew? A single parent dad raising his daughter?
Should those children be taken away from their guardians just because they are not growing up with two parents, one male and one female and their biological parents? Should we not allow adoption then?
Of course, not all married couples have children but every child ever born has a mum and a dad.
Every child was made out of a sperm and an egg, yes. Some conceived by sexual intercourse, in vitro fertilisation...etc but nevertheless by an egg and a sperm. Does that mean all kids are raised by two parents? Because accidents happen, their mum/dad could have died and who do they have then?
Marriage between a man and a woman recognises this basic fact, and that's why marriage is our most important social institution.
Recognises the basic fact of what? A man and a woman marrying? Fifty years ago, people were fighting for interracial marriage and all the same comments lined up. 'Sanctity of marriage, blah blah..'
In my opinion, marriage is a promise between two people that love each other. No matter their, sex, sexual orientation, religon, race..
It's our way of saying that differences between men and women matter. That the differences between mothers and fathers matter.
You're basically saying that women's place is in the kitchen and raising kids and men's place to be the head of the house and work. You're actually celebrating the genetical differences between men and women and using them to stereotype. Mother should be patient, loving and feminine. Fathers should be strict, masculine but caring. There's no grey here. It's only black and white.. and I strongly disagree.
All kids should have the right to get what they love.. a loving mum and dad.
A loving mum and dad? As I've said before. Not all of us are so lucky to have one perfect (typical) dad and perfect (typical) mum. (Yes this is sarcasm).
Some children lost one of their parents, some lost both. Some live with their relatives.
And I'm sure most of the children in foster homes would rather be in a warm, loving home with two same sex parents (or one parent regardless of his/hers sexual orientation) rather than in a foster home.
So lets not change the message of marriage by redefinding it. For the sake of our children.
Marriage has been redefines so many times. First it was a ceremony between people of the highest ranks, of course white. Then it spread to all people. Then other races could do that too. And now people of the same sex want that privilege too! Your children might be a part of the LGBTQ community and how are you protecting them then? You're limiting them of their basic rights as humans. You're doing that to your children.
Can you imagine that? Not being able to marry someone you love? Because of someone else who doesn't like the sound of 'gay marriage' so he's opposing it. Think about it.
We're talking about equality here, people.
