Family, parenthood and children.

Warning: Serious topic, this one isn't for laughs.. 

Today I went out with some of my friends. We went to the cinema, watched a crappy predictable romantic comedy and stuffed ourselves with popcorn. The usual. ^^

On the way home we started discussing stuff.. While I wanted to talk about marriage equality or anything serious.. they started talking about something else. Boys, of course.  I just went along with it..

Anyway, one girl was being depressed. She worried she will never get a boyfriend, that she was ugly, blah blah.The usual teen shit.

Well I told her what's on my mind.

"*insert name*, you are 14 years old! Are you seriously expecting to find love at your age? You have your whole life to find someone!" -exact quote.

I honestly don't understand.. WHY are today's teenage girls (and boys) so worried about everything?
You're freaking 14! You don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend! I'm not saying you shouldn't have one but why worry about it? Hell, I'm not worrying 'bout that. Someday I'll meet somebody. Don't get me wrong, I don't believe in that  soul mates stuff.. but I know I will find somebody^^ 

I'm optimistic. I'm only 14. I have my whole life ahead of me. The end. 

Why worry? Enjoy your care free years while you're still a teen. Someday you might be stuck in a dead end job regretting not having fun when younger.. Who knows? But I'm not saying you should #yolo.

Studying is important.

So then we got on the subject of marriage and kids.

She said that she doesn't want either of those.

All right. Marriage.. screw it I guess.?

But then she said that she was disgusted by kids.

I was honestly shocked and repulsed.

I understand that some people just simply don't want kids and I respect that, but not for the reasons she listed!

"They smell. They cry all the time. They're ugly. They are just extra trouble." - exact quote.

Then she said this.

"They will destroy your life."

Right then all I wanted to do was punch her in the face.

What kind of a sick person SAYS THAT?

I usually try to respect people's opinions but this... I was pissed off.

I kept my cool though. I tried convincing her in having kids.

I was trying to say something along these lines:

"Imagine creating a life inside of you for 9 months, a little baby coming out of you. Loving you with all your might..etc"

She immediately reacted to my sentence saying.

"YUCK, 9 months holding it inside me? Disgusting."

I'm sorry but I simply don't understand. I just.. don't.

You know what's disgusting? That sentence.

She also said she would like to live like her aunt.

Alone, without a partner and without kids.

Honestly, what the hell?

I think she has a problem with her self-esteem.

She thinks she doesn't deserve anything.

I tried talking to her about it, she said she doesn't want to get her heart broken. That all guys are douches.

Listen up everybody. LIFE IS NOT PERFECT. It has it's ups and downs. If you don't risk some stuff in your life, you will never benefit! Life is about taking chances! 

Do you really want to be asking yourself "What if?" for the rest of your life..? Do you?

Anyway, I really wasn't planning on making this post into a huge rant but I simply needed to get this out of my system. Feel free to leave a comment with your opinions. I'd appreciate it a lot.

Look that adorable little creature in the eyes and tell me

you don't want that! Tell me you don't want to hold it,

feel it's weight in your arms and be amazed that you created that. Look at that sweet smile, those piercing eyes and tell me you don't want that! Go ahead.

 His/hers small fingers wrapping around your one finger adorably. His/hers first words, first steps..

All because of you! You have a bad day and look at that face and all of your problems just seem to vanish. Holding him/her in your and your partner's arms and just enjoying the moment, being over whelmed by all the love.

I gotta be realistic of course. They can be a drag, but so what? It's normal. You were too, some time ago! It's all worth it when you just take one look at your child.

Oh and if I was a little to subtle with the whole "This is my creation." thing, I very much support adoption too. I think people who adopt are amazing people, saving abandoned children and giving them a home. :3

All of this may sound weird. Here I am.. a 14 year old girl, already thinking about having children, discussing marriage equality and other serious problems in the world.. 

Is this the maturity everyone is talking about? xD

Nah I don't think so. I still giggle at normal sentences making them sound perverted.. Guess not, eh?

One thing I feel really frustrated about at the moment is my friends. This may sound very self-centered and bitchy  but...

 I feel misunderstood. I feel like other teens my age are different. Most of them go out, have fun, worry about boyfriends, looks and whatever. Hey, I'm not saying that I don't worry about those stuff. I'm still torn up about getting a new haircut which sounds pretty egoistical. Is that the right word?

I feel like I can't talk to my friends about more serious topics. They already got bored of me talking about marriage equality and when I try discussing kids and marriage with them (see above) they carry on to the topic of  "How hot is that boy across the street." I'm not saying that I'm above them or better than them, I'm just saying I hope I find someone similar to me someday. Someone who can discuss Harry Potter and be the most childish teenager sometimes and at the same time talk about Globalization and problems of Economic Integration, Global terrorism or any other current problems in the world. I'm asking for too much, aren't I?

Well fuck it.

I like being serious and discussing major topics.

It makes me feel good and I enjoy it very much. :)

The part I talked about my friend and her life was a private thing that I maybe shouldn't have discussed online, but not many people read this anyway. Fuck it. See *insert name*? TO TAKING RISKS! *raises glass*

Don't twist my words though! Don't go around having unprotected sex at a young age or get drunk.

I'm just saying.. you can have fun and enjoy your few more precious teen years left and be a good student at the same time, as well securing yourself a good future.

 

You don't feel anything watching those pictures?

You're telling me... you don't want that? True happiness? :)